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When Are Men Going To Stop Ruining Lives For Their Porn Fantasies

When Are Men Going To Stop Ruining Lives For Their Porn Fantasies

How many times am I going to read about some poor bloke whose Significant Other (SO) is a very lovely woman.  They have been together for years and everything is great apart from the sex life.  Menopause has hit and she is not interested any more.  He needs more, and just happens to think he has found it in some other woman or thinks he will find it in some other woman.

Now I am quite happy to ignore the “till death us do part” bit of marriage, some times marriage breaks down and that is ok.

What I am not happy to ignore is the number of men nowadays who are watching porn online and thinking that is what their sex life should be like.

They watch and they fantasise and they want their sex life to be like that.  They have their fantasies and they watch more porn.  Then on Valentines Day or their birthday or any other given day when they suddenly think it is a good idea to share, they drop it on their SO.

This poor woman who has most likely been working, looking after kids, looking after elderly parents, cooking the dinner, dealing with the washing etc.  This poor woman sits down for a well earned rest and he pounces with his new idea that will get their sex life going again.  Won’t it be great if you just do this then I will do that and it will be so much fun.

I’m sorry what?

No touch, no embrace, no declaration of love, not even a “how are you babes?”  Just straight into his fantasy and what she needs to do to help him play it out.  She obviously is less than enthused that she can’t get 5 minutes with a hot chocolate and her feet up.  Then it registers, he wasn’t just talking sex here, he was talking porn sex.  Costumes and roleplay, sex toys and lube.

He is smiling thinking what a great way to get their sex life back on track.  He can do what he has seen on the porn channels and she will love it.

She is shocked, what has made him want to treat her like that?  Why would he want to do such things to her?  She has very little idea of the fetish he is talking about but it sounds scary and nothing like something a lover would want to do.

They are at an impasse.

Then he finds someone willing to play out his fantasy.  He gets himself a mistress, someone who seems to enjoy sex as much as he does.  Someone younger, more enthusiastic.  Someone who looks good and pays attention to his needs.

In a very short time he thinks it is time to leave his SO for this new female.  The one who is so very enthusiastic about their sex life.

What he hasn’t thought of is that this new female only sees him once a week.  At the time he sees her, she has had many hours to prepare for this get together.  The kids are with a sitter, and as they meet and go to a hotel, there is no housework to be done.

He sees a very polished version of his mistress.  Will it be the same if he is there 24/7?  Will she still be up for sex when he wants it if he wants it 7 days a week?  Will she be happy being his personal porn star?

That’s what he is looking for. He is leaving a long term relationship because his SO did not play his sex games.  He conveniently forgot all the cooking and cleaning and family obligations she took care of.  He watches porn every day, sometimes for hours every day.  This is what he wants, this is what he thinks a relationship is.

This is happening so often now as men masturbate to unrealistic pornographic media.

It’s time they realised that this is fantasy and that real life is not about their sexual satisfaction, it is about so much more than that.

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